If you are an Indian living abroad, there are several sites where a parent or potential brides and grooms can get a partner for marriage. They help in arranging modern marriages while at the same time, allowing the involved families to adhere to long standing traditions in regard to religion and caste.
Here are some of the dos and don’ts when using the sites:
Don’t allow parents to force you into anything
When on the sites, you will meet men who are coerced by their parents and yet they are not ready for marriage. There are those who will quit during dates because of being forced by parents. Be yourself and go through the various sites, get someone you like and then seek your parent’s approval and not the other way round.
Ensure that you filter out the flirts
While online, you will find several people on matrimonial marriage sites who just want to talk to you without the intention of marriage. Look for someone who meets your characteristics. The first trials might not work out but with patience and endurance, you will eventually meet someone to your expectations. Most women on the marriage sites look for men who are modest, will be respectful to the elders, have some social status and will not demand dowry.
Be Specific
When you first log onto the matrimony website for finding Indians abroad, you will need to be specific on what you want from the partner. You are going to be judged on the basis of your profile and thus, you have to send the right message to the right person. If you are looking for an easy going, nonjudgmental woman who will be compatible with your friends and family, say so.
Deny Deny Deny
As a man, never admit to having had any past relationships even if you the women you are going to meet plus their parents will assume that you have. Your first face to face might be a crazy one, the woman or the man might be too old but you don’t have to run, be polite with them, have something to eat and move. After several attempts, you will get your right partner.
Avoid Overreaching
When using the websites, you might be looking for a fair skinned, educated, good looking career-oriented woman. On your first meet up with the woman, you might just realize that those who match that description are too smart with very high expectations and thus, you might be forced to change your specifics. Always ensure that you make your own decisions without letting parents or other family members influence you.
Go in it with an open mind
You might be looking for a good looking, open-minded, ambitious woman on the Indian marriage site. You will need to abandon what your mind preconceived about a woman before you start dating her. There is a need for you to go in it with an open mind and be ready to meet everyone who seems to be compatible with what you are looking for.